I consider myself an average looking guy, who has had quite a bit of experience with online dating sites both free and paid. Over time I was able to get my email response rate up to about 30%, not bad for an average looking guy. Most online dating sites report that the first email gets around that percentage of a response rate, but that is for both females and male.

I am guessing that this percentage is much higher for women that initially email men – seeing that I would respond to just about every email sent to me, whether I was interested in them or not. To get your response rate up you have to know how to write that first email, and also choose a profile picture, pick a winning head line, and also pick out a good online dating username.

Once you think you have all this figured out and are ready to start flirting on the internet – get some second opinions on your online dating profile. Preferably from someone of the opposite sex and someone that is not a family member.

Send at Least 5 E-mails a Day

The more people that you contact the better chances that you have of making a connection. I’m not saying to contact every single man or woman that you find attractive, but the more you search the better chances you have of becoming a internet dating success.

Broaden Your Search

Depending on how big of a dating site(s) you are using, you may not find your perfect match right around the corner. The power of online dating sites is that you get a chance to learn about people before meeting them in person, sharing common interests or personality types. It’s a combination of attraction both physically and mentally.

If you are not having any success sending messages and receiving responses locally, and you think you have your profile tightened up, then reach out farther, spread you search area to 100 miles or more.
There are many people that have started off in long distance relationships over the internet before even meeting in person, and then they wind up getting married! I say this because I have seen this happen to a buddy of mine, so it is possible and definitely an option that you may want to consider if you aren’t getting the responses you want.

Keep Trying

The more that you practice sending out emails and reading profiles, the better you are going to get at it. The more emails you send out the more responses you’re going to get, don’t spam though. It’s that simple. But bottom line is that you need to get you dating profile squared away BEFORE you expect to see a good response rate from your dating emails.